Perfectionism: A personal note
Today, I get to share and be vulnerable with you. Even as a therapist, I have been challenged and have experienced some growing pains. The desire to reach specific outcomes, personally and professionally, have been daunting and overwhelming.
Earlier, I hit the wall. I wanted to throw in the towel or at least curl up in a ball and shut the world out. I was wondering if I’m doing enough, being effective with clients, spending down time doing the right things, and trying to get it all done.
Just thinking about it makes the anxiety grow! Today, I decided to s l o w d o w n. I stopped –- took some deep breaths — and sat in my feelings. It was ugly. I felt upset and was longing for things to change. I was not only upset about certain situations, but I was not happy with myself. The thoughts of failure and inadequacy swirled around.
I allowed myself to feel and to be mindful of my negative thoughts, and then I made a choice to step out of my feelings and practice gratitude. I reflected on all the opportunities I’ve had and the special people that I get to work with and enjoy in my life.
The grip that perfectionism can have on us can be downright annoying, but it also can be a barrier to us knowing that what we do, even the small things, are important and enough.
If you’ve had a day like I have, take time to pause, rest and reflect in knowing that you are enough. You do enough. And, this too shall pass.
Let me know if you’ve had similar days and/or feelings. If you’re unable to move through the challenging moments or don’t know how to, you may benefit from the assistance of a supportive therapist.